Re: An anonymous IRC user's opinion

[Emanuel Berg <incal@dataswamp.org>]

Richard Stallman wrote:

>> You read the manuals for your TI-83 scientific calculator
>> and Makita impact driver as well?
>
> I have a feeling that question is sarcastic.

Oh, I'm never sarcastic. People never understand what I mean,
here and in life in geneal, just imagine how it would be if
I went around being sarcastic. Now you made me think ...

What I meant was: Does he read ALL tech manuals?

Or just SOME? If he reads some, is it because some stuff is
more complicated or is it because some stuff - that he cares
more for it and is more active with and around it?

> Sarcasm make the point unclear, so it leads to
> misunderstandings and confusion. I don't use either of those
> products, so I can't guess what the point was.
>
> Also, it tends to suggest hostility (even if none is
> actually meant). That often hurts feelings and makes the
> discussion acrimonious.
>
> Therefore we ask people to avoid sarcasm in our discussions.
> See https://gnu.org/philosophy/kind-communication.html.

Yes, I know, and I agree. You could add a paragraph what you
should do when you feel hurt. Not when you feel a lot hurt,
then instinct takes over anyway, but when you go from happy to
sad because of something someone said, be it the thing itself
or how it was formulated and put forward.

The only thing I've come up with is immediately as yourself,
"did this person intend to be a jerk to you?" I have found
that whatever answer you reach, it tends to have removed some
of the hurtness already.

You can also visualize yourself from the outside. You see
a guy with a keyboard, not feeling good, hurting, even, and
you see it is you, but still you have removed yourself from
pain and you can stay out as long as needed, and when you
return, you know about the pain, because it happened, and you
remember it, but you don't FEEL it in the same way.

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